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You make a decision you have postponed for months - not because the fear has disappeared, but because you know what you want to stand for.
01·The art of being yourself
At some point, knowing what no longer serves you is not enough.
Perhaps you have long been aware of the situations in which you give yourself up, take on too much or postpone an important decision. You understand more and more, yet when the moment of choice arrives, you begin to doubt what you feel, take everyone but yourself into account, or wait for a certainty that never comes.
Then another question begins to matter more than finding further answers:
What will you begin to do with what you already know?
The Kobieta Suwerenna™ Process is a space in which your own recognitions begin to take shape as decisions, boundaries, conversations and changes you can stand behind.
02 · The quiet before a decision
From the outside, much of your life looks good. Inside, you increasingly sense that not everything in it truly belongs to you.
Perhaps you have long been the one who can cope. You take responsibility, support others, make decisions and get things done. At the same time, you are seeing more clearly the price you pay for continually placing yourself last.
Not every woman arrives with a ready answer. Sometimes you cannot yet say what exactly needs to change. You only know that the way you are living is costing you more and more, and that you no longer want to continue in the same way.
This space may be for you if:
- 01you say ‘yes’ while something inside you is saying ‘no’
- 02you take responsibility for other people's emotions and needs at your own expense
- 03you are facing a decision and can no longer tell which arguments are truly yours
- 04you are in the midst of change, or just beyond it, and are trying to find yourself again
- 05you already know a great deal about yourself, yet that knowledge still does not always become a choice
- 06you want to live with more calm and on your own terms, without constructing another ideal version of yourself
This is not about becoming better. It is about abandoning yourself less and less.
03 · The cost of remaining where you are
If you change nothing, life will continue moving forward.
Perhaps nothing dramatic will happen. You will continue working, caring for others, making everyday decisions and doing what needs to be done. From the outside, many things may look exactly as they do today.
Yet more weeks and months will pass. The conversation you have been preparing yourself for may still remain unspoken. In situations where you feel your own ‘no’, you may once again say ‘yes’ to avoid disappointing someone, creating conflict or unsettling what is already familiar. A decision about your work, a relationship or the way you live may once again give way to matters that seem more urgent or more important to other people.
The cost of living this way rarely appears in one clearly recognisable moment. It accumulates gradually: in the energy spent anticipating other people’s reactions, in the tension that accompanies every attempt to set a boundary, and in the time spent reconsidering what you have already recognised. Over time, trusting yourself may become increasingly difficult, because each time you postpone your own feelings and needs, you reinforce the belief that they can wait a little longer.
Not every delay means abandoning yourself. Sometimes you need time to grow into a decision, gather information or create a sense of safety. It is worth recognising, however, the difference between time that helps you move towards your own choice and time that merely postpones facing what you already know.
What may cost you most is not the decision itself, but the months spent living in a way in which what you feel, know and need still has no real influence on your choices.
04 · Possible changes
What may begin to look different?
I do not assume in advance what will change in your life. Every woman arrives with a different story and makes her own decisions. There are, however, situations in which our work may create more clarity, more choice and a greater capacity to remain on your own side.
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You say ‘no’ without spending hours explaining to yourself and others why you are entitled to do so.
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You have the conversation you have been avoiding and say what you need, even when the other person sees the situation differently.
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You notice sooner when you begin to take responsibility for other people's emotions, needs or decisions.
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You stop automatically choosing the solution that is most convenient for everyone except you.
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When you know that you no longer want something in your life, you begin to explore what you can actually do about it.
This is not about living without doubt. It is about no longer allowing doubt to cut you off from what is true for you.
05 · When a choice has consequences
Your own choice does not always bring immediate relief.
You may say ‘no’ and feel relieved. But you may also say ‘no’ and, a moment later, begin to wonder whether you went too far, hurt someone or should take it back. You may make a decision that matters to you and still feel fear, sadness or longing for what you are leaving behind.
Choosing for yourself does not always bring immediate peace.
Sometimes the hardest part begins only after the choice has been made: staying on your own side when someone is disappointed, the situation becomes uncomfortable or old doubts return.
We work with this moment in the Process too. Not so that you stop feeling fear or guilt, but so that these feelings no longer decide for you or automatically lead you back to abandoning yourself.
06 · The principal way of working
The Kobieta Suwerenna™ Process
Not one good decision, but a new way of staying with yourself when life asks you to choose.
The Process is for a woman who can see that this is no longer about one situation. Sometimes you know what you want, but begin to question it when fear, conflict or the possibility of disappointing others appears. At other times, you cannot yet name the change you need. You only know that you no longer want to continue living in the same way.
Depending on what you bring, the Process may last twelve weeks or six months. We do not look only for an answer to what you should do. We explore what in your decisions is truly yours, what makes it difficult for you to hear or take your own needs seriously, and what happens inside you when you try to act differently.
A single conversation may bring clarity. The Process gives you time to test in daily life what you discover during our meetings, notice when you return to old ways of functioning, and work with what arises then in your relationships, emotions, body and decisions.
This is not about acquiring more knowledge about yourself. It is about what you begin to do with what you already know.
Two Process lengths respond to two different moments of change
The 12-week Process
When you need to move through a specific turning point
This Process is for a woman who is facing an important decision or recognises a recurring pattern of giving herself up and wants to begin living differently.
Over twelve weeks, you work on recognising your own answer, making a decision, beginning the change, and meeting what arises when you start setting boundaries, having difficult conversations and acting in accordance with what you already know about yourself.
The central question of this Process:
‘What do I choose, and how will I begin to follow it?’
The 6-month Process
When the change concerns more than one decision
This Process is for a woman who can see that this is no longer about one situation. Several areas of her life are interconnected, and change in one of them sets consequences in motion across the others.
Six months gives you time not only to hear your own answer and make a decision, but also to test new choices in everyday life. It allows us to work with what arises in relationships, responsibility, emotions and long-standing ways of functioning as you begin to stand more clearly on your own side.
The central question of this Process:
‘How do I bring this change into my life and build a new way of living?’
After completing the Process
After completing the 12-week or 6-month Process, you may choose individual continuation. This is a flexible form of meetings for women who want to consolidate the change, move through its further consequences or work with other areas of their lives.
Continuation is not required. The purpose of the Process is to build such a strong connection with yourself that you can increasingly rely on your own discernment and inner authority.
During the introductory conversation, we will consider together which Process length corresponds to where you are today. Before you decide, you will know the full scope of our work, the fee and the payment terms.
07 · How we work
Awareness alone is not always enough.
You may understand very well why you act in a certain way and still do exactly what you have always done when an important moment arrives. A choice is not made in thought alone. It is also shaped by emotions, needs, signals from the body and mechanisms that have helped you preserve safety, connection or acceptance over many years.
That is why the Kobieta Suwerenna™ Process does not stop at understanding. We pay attention to what happens within you when you try to act differently, and then bring new recognitions into situations that are genuinely present in your life.
Depending on what you need, conversation may be complemented by work with the body and emotions, writing, metaphor, creative activity or an experiential exercise. I choose the tools to meet you and your process; I do not fit you to the tool.
08 · Structure and fee
How is the 12-week Process organised?
- 12 individual 90-minute sessions
- meetings generally once a week
- practices and materials between sessions
- online, or in person in Warsaw by prior arrangement
The fee for the 12-week Process begins at PLN 6,900.
Payment may be divided into three instalments, beginning at PLN 2,400.
The 6-month Process
You will learn about the scope of the meetings, the form of support and the fee for the 6-month Process during the introductory conversation. Before you decide, you will receive all the information about its structure, payment and terms of working together.
Book a conversation about the Process
Introductory conversation · 30 minutes · no commitment
09 · Women's voices
What women began to see and choose differently
I feel I'm the driver of this vehicle. Maybe for the first time in my life, I sense that I decide which way I go. I learned to set boundaries and stop taking responsibility for everything and everyone. It gives me deep calm - and a sense that I can rely on myself.
At first I was afraid about my professional situation, and I carried a lot of uncertainty. Today that fear is much smaller, and I make more conscious decisions. I had the courage to stand up for myself, and to say what I want. I saw I can do it calmly - without tension, but clearly.
I saw how much responsibility I was carrying for everyone around me. I started giving more space - to myself, and to my family. Our relationships changed - there's more calm, less tension. And I finally have time for myself, and a sense of more lightness.
Through this work I understood that I can choose. That I have influence over my life, and I don't have to hand that control to others. I started seeing patterns I'd been living in for years - especially in relationships and decisions. Today I make decisions much more calmly, and much more in alignment with myself.
I'm in much better contact with myself. I hear and feel myself more clearly, instead of running on autopilot. I've started to take my own needs into account, and no longer say yes to everything at my own cost. It changed my relationships too - they're calmer, more real.
Each of these statements describes an individual experience. The course and results of the Process may be different for every woman.
10 · About me
I do not tell women how to live. I accompany them when they stop giving that right to others.
My name is Justyna Cichosz. For many years I worked in a world of responsibility, decisions, negotiations and management. I was the one who could organise, anticipate and deliver. From the outside, much of it made sense. Inside, however, I began to see more clearly that it is possible to cope exceptionally well with a life in which you gradually cease to take yourself into account.
For nearly twenty years I have explored different ways of understanding a human being - from consciousness and the subconscious, through emotions and the body, to creativity and symbol. I am, among other things, a certified Zen Coaching coach, a Dekodyka trainer and a graduate of the one-year SensArte Art Therapy Academy.
I am able to work with what is subtle - emotions, needs, signals from the body and what you cannot yet name - without stopping at understanding alone. Years of business, managerial and negotiation experience mean that I also return naturally to the question: what does this mean for your actual life, and what can you do with it?
I am not interested in creating another, better version of a woman. I am interested in the moment when she stops overlooking herself and begins to build a life in which there is room for her too.
11 · One specific situation
If this truly is about one decision
Not every situation calls for a twelve-week process. If you are facing one specific decision, conversation or change, and do not see the same pattern of giving yourself up returning in other areas of your life, you may choose a Choice Point session.
During an individual session, we examine what the choice is truly about, separate your own voice from fear, pressure and other people's expectations, and look for a next step you can stand behind.
A Choice Point may bring clarity to one situation. It does not replace a process intended to change the way you remain with yourself across many areas of life.
Online · 75-90 minutes · PLN 490
After the session, you receive a brief summary and a practice for the following seven days.
12 · Questions
Questions I often hear
A Choice Point is a single session devoted to one specific decision, conversation or situation. The Kobieta Suwerenna™ Process is a longer process for a woman who sees that a similar way of giving herself up returns in different areas of her life.
I use coaching questions and tools, but I do not work only with a goal and an action plan. I combine conscious reflection with work on emotions, needs, the body, the subconscious and the experience arising in everyday life.
This is a developmental process, not psychotherapy, diagnosis or treatment.
If you are in acute crisis, experience symptoms requiring treatment, or need continuous support between meetings, contact with a psychologist, psychotherapist, doctor or appropriate institution may be more suitable.
During the introductory conversation, we consider whether your needs fall within the scope of the Process. If I believe you need another form of help, I will tell you directly and respectfully.
Yes. I treat what you share during our meetings as confidential.
We discuss the detailed rules and limits of confidentiality before our work begins.
The 12-week Process includes 12 individual 90-minute sessions, generally held once a week, together with personal practices chosen for the Process. Meetings take place online or, by prior arrangement and where practical, in person in Warsaw.
The 6-month Process has a broader scope and is intended for women whose change concerns several interconnected areas of life. You will learn the details of the number of meetings, the rhythm of our work, the scope of support and the fee during the introductory conversation, before you decide.
Please let me know at least 24 hours in advance. The new meeting should take place no later than one week after the original date, subject to availability.
You will receive the detailed terms before our work begins.
You may stop the Process at any stage. If doubts arise, we can look at them calmly, without trying to persuade you to stay.
The final decision is yours.
The purpose of the Process is not to lead you towards a predetermined decision. You may decide to make a change, or recognise that you want to remain where you are while functioning there differently. We work so that your choice is not shaped only by fear, pressure, an automatic reaction or the need to meet other people's expectations, and so that you are able to stand behind what you choose.
13 · The next step
If you do not want to spend another year in the same place, we can explore whether this Process is right for you.
You do not need to know today how every matter you are trying to resolve will unfold. The first step does not have to be a ready answer. It may be the decision that you no longer want to treat what you know about yourself as though it did not matter.
During a 30-minute conversation, you can tell me where you are today. Together, we will consider whether the Kobieta Suwerenna™ Process corresponds to what you need and whether I am the right person to accompany you.
I will not try to persuade you to begin the Process. I do, however, want to consider honestly whether I can help.
Book a conversation about the Process
Introductory conversation · 30 minutes · no commitment
The Process is available throughout the year · starting dates depend on availability in the calendar